Supporting your partner is a fundamental in a relationship and most of the time you don’t even really have to do much but say “Baby I got your back” or just physically be there to show that you care. IF you’re really into it then be their biggest cheerleader!
Other times you can just be a silent supporter and give them the space they need to clear their head and figure things out on their own. Trust me it’s frustrating when all you want to do is be there for them when you just end up pushing them further into their own problems.
It’s ok to step back and give them breathing room. Not every problem will be solved working together. Sometimes shit needs to be solved individually.
There have been moments when I caught that tone in hubby’s voice that he was shutting down and would be over with the conversation and while it hurts that I’m just trying to help figure out a way to solve the problem and all he’s doing is shutting me out, I get it. I also cant be mad.
Yea, I’ll be off for the rest of the day cause he’s off. But then he’ll call me later and apologize and eventually tell me, ON HIS OWN, what the problem really is. We give each other that kind of respect to our own persons to handle our situations on our own.
- We don’t push each other to say things before we’re ready.
- We don’t demand explanations up front.
- We don’t crowd and overwhelm each other for answers.
- We know when to back away.
- We know when a simple hug and kiss or a walk away to clear ones head is needed.
- We know when not to speak.
I’m lucky that we have that kind of relationship where open communication is important to both of us. And while we may not want to talk about a situation then and there, eventually it will come out.
Really, we can’t hide squat from each other. There really is a 6th sense when something is wrong at times.
This kind of support comes from really knowing your partner, when to push them and not give into their bullshit and when to back away and give them your silent support. It won always come easy sometimes we may go to far but its done in love. Things will work out the way it’s supposed to in the end.
Love. Communicate. Support. Prosper.