Its October 12, 2016 and its been a little over 2 months since my fiance asked me to marry him.
Correction it has been a little over 2 month since he gave me the ring to the go with the proposal he did 3 times over the last, lets call it 2 years
That’s right hubby proposed 3 times without the ring and each time I said yes.
Because I am marrying the man, NOT the ring.
Last time I checked, the answer to a simple yes or no question was more important than what he was going to slide onto my finger.
It was never about the ring and I could still marry him in the future without ever receiving a wedding ring either. While it is nice to have a ring. I’m perfectly fine without one.
And not many woman can say that. Am i judging, absolutely not but priorities need to get in order when marriage comes into play.
You are agreeing to spend the rest of your life with someone. You need to be sure that saying yes, with or without the ring, is what you’re up for.
Marriage is hard work and many tough decisions. While we can get caught up in the romance of it all we need to remember that being married means being co-dependent. Its not just YOU anymore it’s WE and US.
You don’t need to lose the identity you had while you were single or in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, but you do need to adapt to a married mindset. If you go into your marriage without discussing trivial things like alternating cooking nights, which bank you guys will have your mutual funds in for bills and such, where you want to move in the future, whose family to visit on which holidays.. Little things like that then you’re setting yourself up for failure before you begin.
Luckily, my fiance and I like to be prepared on all fronts in terms of what we are doing and what we want for us.
We are taking baby steps into our marriage. We are taking the time to discuss each and every aspect of what we want for our marriage. Hell we even discussed how potential fights are gonna go. (Lots of sock wars are coming up in the future!)
We don’t want to lose sight of everything that we’ve built in our foundation. We took the time to get to know each other as friends and that was the best start for us. And we want to keep that friendship going into our marriage.
So far we’ve done a pretty awesome job.
In closing, I just want to say to all you wonderful human beings out there, in the early throes of your engagement, take the time to talk things out with your partner. Every single thing, every fear, every hope, every idea you have for your marriage.
It won’t hurt to communicate.
Communication about everything is the key to it all of your happiness. You cannot be scared to talk to your partner. You need to be able to talk about anything, it shouldn’t feel like pulling teeth. Trust me, if it feels like that, then it’s not worth it.
Any who, talk to your other half, your significant other, your king, your queen, and see where their head is at or even yours.