My first three posts were all about communication because its important and I believe that it is the basis of a good relationship.
I believe it is the key to everything.
While actions speak louder than words at times, it is still better to talk things through because some actions might not always be what we think they are.
Most of us would not have made it this far into our relationships with actions alone. While words can hurt, they can also be revealing and truthful. Be honest with yourself and your partner. Let them know what’s on your mind, how you feel, and how they’re making you feel.
Saying it is just as important as showing it.
While its not always easy to voice things out give yourself time to think about what you want to say, how you want to say it and when. The ‘when’ can be tricky though. It took me a good week or two to tell my fiance that I thought about suicide once when I got sick. The pain was that great those first two days that I just wanted it to end. I didn’t but still it crossed my mind.
While I didn’t HAVE to say anything to him, I NEEDED to and I WANTED to because we share everything with each other, there are no real secrets, just things in our past that are irrelevant to our future. We think we know each other better than others but we still have a lot to LEARN about each other.
I’m not afraid or ashamed to admit that.
I know that conversations won’t always be easy. Hell it took me a week to admit my feelings to myself after he told me he was falling in love with me… then another week to be able to say it out loud and to his face.
Communication takes time. The ease of it takes time. And time is something that you two will have before you take that big leap. Or at least to consider in your relationship now.
As terrifying as it is to speak up its okay once I know we have the same fears or he reassures me that he has my back and we’ll make it through together.
But talking out loud doesn’t work for everyone. Sometimes writing gets the job done better. That’s fine. You can create a communication book where everything you need to say can be written down. Trade it with your partner. Let them inside your head. Let he/she respond. Go back and forth until it becomes tiresome and all you wanna do is talk it out cause your hands are cramping and you’re developing carpal tunnel, LOL.
Either way you’re “talking” to each other.
And that’s the start.